Grieving the Loss of Normalcy

20 Mar 2020 - Tracey Wallacce


We don’t know how long this will last. Each of us in our homes, practicing social distancing or self-quarantining until the curve is flattened and the worst of it is over. Some say 6 weeks. Some say 18 months.

Either way, most of us are grieving the loss of normalcy.

And that is only looking at this from a generational cohort standpoint.

Each of us, in our daily and individual lives, is grieving the loss of going to the grocery store and having everything stocked, or being able to go to work and have some by the coffee pot talk.

Things are different –– and they will be for at least the next few weeks.

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Things are different, yes, and people are stepping up to offer community and options for things that are essentials.

It is OK to grieve the loss of normalcy.

Grief is a normal and natural response to change of any kind, especially an unwanted or unexpected change to our routines and habits.

Grief can often be isolating and paralyzing. Community is the antidote to this, which in these current times is more difficult to foster.

Be sure to make it a daily point to call someone, to facetime with someone over coffee or wine, to make human connection as often as possible.

Human connection is, after all, our routine and our normal. We are a social species, no matter how much we like our alone time too.

So, even in your grief, do this one thing: reach out.

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The Virtual Therapist Will See You Now

Need to talk to a professional about how you are feeling? That’s great! Virtual therapy was already on the rise before coronavirus, so the tools and technology are already in place! Yay, technology!

“Roughly 450 million people currently struggle with a mental health condition such as anxiety and depression, but nearly two-thirds never seek professional help. The big barriers include stigma, time, cost and availability,” reads The Global Wellness Institute’s report on virtual therapy.

“To tackle this crisis, mental health is moving beyond the psychiatrist’s couch, with a rise in virtual apps and platforms (whether TalkSpace, BetterHelp or Amwell) that give people the ability to talk, text and video conference with professional counselors, on their schedule, in the comfort of their home, often at a fraction of the price of clinic appointments.”

And now, we’re in the coronavirus pandemic, with triage levels of anxiety and loneliness. And with a mandate of social isolation, teletherapy is on the rise—and needs to be.

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We recently spoke to Alma member Lisa A. Henshaw, PhD, LCSW about what trauma is, how COVID-19 presents as a traumatic stressor, and the pandemic’s effect on those with past trauma.

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Psychiatrists and therapists are holding their once in-person sessions on the phone/online (like The Austin Center for Grief and Loss!), and more people will turn to the new platforms that connect them virtually to mental health professionals.

Use these tools. Talk to friends. Take this seriously. Your mental and physical health will thank you over the weeks to come.

Forecasting the Future of Teletherapy


Shakespeare wrote King Lear when the Plague closed theaters. At that same time, Isaac Newton invented calculus, parts of optic theory and allegedly, while sitting in his garden saw an apple fall from a tree, which inspired his understanding of gravity and the laws of motion.

This has all happened to us before –– and it will happen again. We can do this. We are powerful. Each of us can come out the other side stronger than before.

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